Thursday, June 23, 2011

The Last Mitzvah

So this isn't really about the last mitzvah, but instead it's my last post about how I'm using my bat mitzvah (and other b'nai mitzvahs) to help inspire the wedding. Except this one's a little different, because instead it's about those details that don't quite translate as well.

Do you have any idea how many of these I picked up from various parties? Not only the shows but guitars and saxophones as well. Yes, they're fun at 13. But at a wedding, well it doesn't quite work for me.

So maybe this one could actually happen. Except I was never that great at limbo. If I was the best at any b'nai mitzvah game it would have to be hula hoop. Although I still remember leaving the dance floor in tears after loosing at least one time. But my all time favorite game is called Pepsi/7-Up and involves running across in the dance floor and either kneeling or sitting on your partner's knee. I'm pretty sure it wouldn't quite work in a wedding dress, but I'd love to see someone try!

Yes, there are weddings with themes, but not quite like the all encompassing themes are bar & bat mitzvah. To name a few I've been to sports themes, casinos, Hollywood (several times with this one), NYC, the beach, and I'm sure quite a few others. And I'm sure you'll want to know, my theme was actually the Renaissance. Not that surprising when you look at the books I still enjoy reading, but not your typical bat mitzvah theme.

source via Everwood
Candle Lighting Ceremonies
I didn't actually do this at my bat mitzvah, but looking back part of me wishes I had. It's normally done at the actually reception and it's a way of honoring friends and family. For each candle the b'nai mitivah calls up a person (or group of people) asking them to light a candle. Each time there's normally some type of intro explaining why the person is important and what the mean to the bat mitzvah girl. It is also used often in memory of an individual. In episode of Everwood shown above, Delia lights her last candle in memory of her mother. While I've never heard of this tradition done at a wedding, I do think understand the right circumstances it could translate well.

Do you think I've picked well as to aspects that might not work at weddings? Or are you just dying to wear blow-up shoes at your wedding reception?

1 comment:

  1. I think the only time I have hoola-hooped well was at my bat mitzvah luncheon! I didn't have a traditional party - so no candles or intflatables for me! We had family over that night where we cut the cake and I just blew out candles - but the cake was delicious none the less!